Commentary: Rhett and Link

I am an occasional reader of The Gospel Coalition website - I think some of the articles found there are thought-provoking or interesting and recently, I stumbled across one entitled, "Let's Deconstruct a Deconversion Story: The Case of Rhett and Link". The story tells of a pair of YouTube stars, Rhett McLaughlin and Link Neal, who are former missionaries and Campus Crusade (Cru) staff members and now consider themselves former Christians as well. The TGC article portrays their decision as having a lot to do with the sexual ethic of the Bible and their problems with that, but I listened to both of their testimonies - each about an hour and forty-five minutes long - and I don't feel as though that is a fair portrayal, certainly not for Rhett, but likely not for Link either. That is part of their story, but the etiology of their deconversions is much more subtle.

From listening to both stories, it is clear that this all started with Rhett. He is the one who seems to have a more comprehensive understanding of Scripture and of apologetics; I suspect he started to have doubts on some of the scientific stuff and then started talking to Link about it and slowly convinced his childhood friend away from faith. If you listen to their stories, Rhett is clearly the one putting a lot of time and effort into the struggle and then when you hear Link's story - there are a lot of the same elements, but most of them are referring back to things his friend Rhett gave him or was telling him about. They pretty much acknowledge this straight out at the end of Link's testimony.

I very much identify with some of Rhett's doubt - as someone who has spent some time looking for scientific or archaeological verification of Scripture and desperately wanting my faith to have a strong rational component to it, I can identify the unsettling feeling he had when some of that stuff doesn't match up. But for me - rather than pushing me away, it caused me to ask different questions. Also - it reminded me of God's response to Job:

"Then the LORD spoke to Job out of the storm. He said: "Who is this that obscures my plans with words without knowledge? Brace yourself like a man; I will question you and you will answer me. Where were you when I laid the earth's foundation? Tell me, if you understand. Who marked off its dimensions? Surely you know! Who stretched a measuring line across it? On what were its footings set, or who laid its cornerstone - while the morning stars sang together and the angels shouted for joy?" (Job 38:1-7)

We can look at the scientific data and the archaeological finds and all of these things in order to try and support a belief in a God of the universe, but ultimately, those pursuits eventually become a God in and of themselves - ultimately it is an attempt to make a God out of 'certainty'. It seems like they are missing the point and by that I mean, the point of God revealing himself through the Bible is not so that we can go and verify everything and come away with some certainty about it all...it's so that we can know Him and know where all of this is going. The bottom-line is that science is not "settled" any more now than it ever has been, particularly in the area of origins of the Universe. For every scientist that has become an atheist because of their work, you will find another scientist who came to belief in God as a result of their work. There are ardent Christian scientists in every field of science, genetics and evolution included. There never was such a thing as certainty and there never will be, in either direction - towards God or away from him.

As a kid, I was a big fan of the C.S. Lewis books in the series, "The Lion, The Witch, and the Wardrobe". Towards the end of the first book, Lucy and Edmund (her brother) have both found Narnia through the wardrobe and Lucy is trying to convince their older siblings of this place they have found. Lucy insists that it is real and Edmund is more mum about it and eventually, the older two go and tell the master of the house about this, seeking his advice on what to do. He says,

"Logic!" said the Professor half to himself. "Why don't they teach logic at these schools? There are only three possibilities. Either your sister is telling lies, or she is mad, or she is telling the truth. You know she doesn't tell lies and it is obvious that she is not mad. For the moment then and unless any further evidence turns up, we must assume that she is telling the truth."

Neither Rhett nor Link seem to be willing to go as far as Atheism. Rhett refers to himself as a 'hopeful agnostic'. I think they are both open to the possibility that they are wrong - but it seems like they have come to the conclusion, for now, that Jesus is either a madman or a liar. Lying would go against Jesus' very nature (if he is who he says he is) so the only logical conclusion would be that he is a madman - afterall, there is no denying his actual existence and life - that he was a real person who lived on earth is a historical fact.

One thing that struck me about their stories is how big of an impact one person can have on another. As I mentioned above - Rhett has clearly been the one who has led his friend Link away from the Lord. Which makes me feel for Link - I think he understands the doubts and struggles of his friend Rhett, but since they did not come out of his own heart, he is following but isn't as convicted/convinced. Rather, he has justified his own feelings by identifying more strongly with his disagreement with the Biblical sexual ethic that is bothersome to him. Here are some of his comments:

"The specific issue of the LGBTQ issues; the church was a welcoming place and a loving place, but when you really got down to it, they [some of his friends] weren't accepted as couples and that really ate away at me. This was a long time coming - as we made meaningful connections with people here, I couldn't sit in the seat at church knowing that the couldn't get married there. I just felt like it was a betrayal of my friends and what I believed. And so I didn't go back."

"I'm just not ready to enter back into a specific system of belief even if it's different and the practical applications of that belief system are exactly in line with how I want to live my life. Maybe I'm still just too close or have been in it so long that I need more distance from it."

"...it's easiest for me to believe that when you die -- it's just like Dana Carvey said, my Wayne's World doppelganger -- that "when you die, it's just like the experience you had before you were born, do you remember that?" So I'm like, yeah, that's actually comforting and I find it easy to believe that for some reason, I'm not compelled to believe it, but it's just an easy place for my mind to rest."

"...everybody believes whatever they want to believe, like, your innermost desires, it could be something primal like survival and security, there are so many different things - but we have a way of finding what works for us and I think that's instinctive. To put it bluntly, you believe what you want to believe, you know, I find it easy to believe that. I find it easy to believe that because so many people have had so many earth shattering experiences that are in complete contradiction, that probably means that God's not personal." 

"I want to do the work to stay open and not dogmatic - and I know that it will take work, it takes an investment of time and priority to not just sit back and go with the flow. I'm not looking for the next thing to latch onto and believe and start to follow, but being open to how God may exist and may want to connect with me. The main thing is, I don't want to judge, I don't want to condemn - I want to be as loving as I can. [...] I do feel like over the past few years my capacity to love has grown - my capacity to love myself and others has expanded a lot more over the past few years. I take that as a good sign. I just don't think that if God exists, I just can't believe that me being open and sincere and as loving as possible and as honest as possible is disqualifying me from receiving God's love. I can't accept that."

These, my friends, are the comments of an James 1:6 man: "...because the one who doubts is like a wave of the sea, blown and tossed by the wind. That man should not expect to receive anything from the Lord. Such a person is double-minded and unstable in all they do."

Reading between the lines of some of these comments, which echo some of the comments that Rhett makes in his testimony - I get a sense that "the God of open options" is that one that Rhett and Link have built for themselves. It looks different for each of them, and how they got there was different, but ultimately, the God of the Bible doesn't align with their own views on certain things and because they are unwilling to accept that, they had to create their own God, or abandon him altogether. There was actually an article on TGC about this not too long ago.

Anyway, that's enough from me on this. I find these types of discussions interesting because they get at the heart of mankind. John Calvin once said, "The mind is...a perpetual forge of idols". Jeremiah 17:9-10 says, "The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately sick; who can understand it? I the Lord search the heart and test the mind, to give every man according to his way, according to the fruit of his deeds."
We all have our experiences, yes, but at the end of the day, there is actual, real truth. The question we must ask ourselves is, "Do I trust Him?" That question lies at the intersection of faith and knowledge. Again, hearkening back to the C.S. Lewis kids book series, Susan (Lucy's older sister) is asking one of her new friends in Narnia about Aslan, the great lion who rules over Narnia and she asks, "Is he quite safe?" And her friend responds, "Safe? Who said anything about safe? Course he isn't safe. But he's good. He's the king, I tell you."